All the things people say about parenting are true: they grow so fast..I can't imagine life without them...why didn't we do this sooner...it's a sacrifice, but worth it...it's exhausting, but fulfilling.
I've often thought that, in life, giving out information out of season is wasteful. Once the experience is understood, these simple phrases are the best attempt at wanting to be human--to share, impart knowledge, and make your experience useful.
I read somewhere recently of new years resolution of famous people and Jonathan Swift wrote, in not so many words, to not give advice or opinion unless asked. How difficult it is to hold your tongue, but so beneficial If you truly want people to seek your advice and opinions, don't so freely offer it: it's rude. It want to try to be more tongue-tied but sure-minded. It's easy to want to be an expert on anything related to parenting once you've gone through it.
Some of the best things I've learned involve the cycle of: 1) not knowing, 2) gathering information/processing 3) making my choice/doing something a certain way, and 4) finally, realizing that another choice, while not the one I would choose, is seriously perfectly ok for someone else and their someone-else-kid. This means that the results may vary--but are often immeasurable What's most important for me to state is (and that's the great responsibility wherein lies all the fun and worrying of parenting) this is my choice for my baby.
But I must remember that my view is only one.
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